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ABOUT HAPPINESS
Hello, I chose the topic of happiness for today’s article. I thought I was a relatively happy person, even because I considered superficial actions and deeds to be happiness.

I used to feel happy in fulfilling my ideas and reaching my goals. For example, that I would have this car or that I would have a successful relationship with this and that person. When I reached my goals, fulfilled my ideas, I was a winner and happy. I evaluated my life and my situation as successful and happy, because I achieved what I wanted. When not, I felt failure and anger. This is how I searched for myself and how I was satisfying myself and my feelings of happiness until I realized that it was a delusion, that it was just an illusory notion of happiness.

What do I mean? What delusion?
The illusion that I must first have a goal. That I must achieve something, something distant and only then I could be happy. But then I always have a feeling of lack or failure and I can even suffer because I do not get my idea of happiness. Then I often thought that I was in a phase where I suffer, in a phase where I can’t be well, because my happiness is so far away from me. Oh it will be great when I have the car, it will be great when I make friends with this and that person, when I will get there and there.

Another common pattern is that I wait for this and that person to come and he will give me that happiness, he will fill me with happiness, it will not work without him.

When I realized that I was living this pattern, I failed very deep. I felt alone and dependent on almost everything. I realized how this world affects me, how it affects my feeling of happiness. I was slowly finding out how dependent I was on how others treat me, how they react or if they help me fulfill my idea to be finally happy.

I soon realized that happiness is about choosing to be happy NOW. I knew that the only way to be happy was to give up everything internally; to detach oneself from the ideas and feelings that I think are bringing or will bring happiness to me.

Start being happy on your own… so ordinary but so expensive at the same time.

What is happiness?
The feeling of happiness is a state in which I can choose to live, but it is a decision from within and must not depend on any cause or result. It is a state of being in the present moment again and again. It is simple. Sufficient amount of respect, humility and modesty is enough. These qualities are necessary. Because pride and greed never have enough and they will never be satisfied even if they get everything that the mind has determined. Therefore, the control of thoughts and desires is one of the keys to a lasting sense of happiness.

So today I already know that I can’t want the feeling of happiness from anyone or anything else than from myself and that I will take full responsibility for my happiness. But not by transferring it to a new vision of myself, but to be happy now.

But who really took responsibility for his happiness? You can argue that it was you who did it, that you have taken responsibility by for example that you go to work and then you buy what you need for the money you earn and then you feel happiness. But here’s the same formula again, you buy a feeling of happiness, or you buy someone else to fill you with happiness. For example, you buy gifts for your children to make them feel more satisfied, and then it is you who feel more satisfied as well, but in turn you pass on the responsibility for your happiness to your children or to those objects. So we are constantly in the illusory notion of happiness that is constantly distant or dependent on the crazy cycle of the emotional trade.

I know that no one taught us and no one showed us how to be happy. No one told us as a child or as a teenager, “Be happy because you are, you can be happy now.” It’s about deciding for happiness.

So accepting responsibility for your own happiness is the first step; giving up all ideas about what happiness can bring you and stop grabbing those people and objects, but grabbing happiness itself right away.

You can visualise it in a meditation.
First, meditate on your happiness. My happiness, be a part of me and my journey through life from now on.

Second, control your mind and thoughts. Start using your mind differently. It is not your master; it serves you, it is your instrument. The mind is like fire – it is a good servant but a bad master.

Third, focus on activities that connect you to the feeling of happiness, but don’t be attached to them. Attach yourself to that happiness itself.

Can you feel the difference? It is a work in itself and I would like us all to find the true value and meaning of happiness. This is also because we would change a lot of destructive habits in the world. Perhaps we would cease to be emotionally dependent on each other and not be strong, instead we would all be immersed in our sense of happiness, love, abundance. We would become strong pillars of society. The illusion would dissolve. Everyone who discovers his happiness in his heart then radiates it to their surroundings and becomes a real support.

In society, it happens like this. Happiness is something you must work very hard for, something you have to strive for and fight for. It’s like a hot live coal game. A live piece of coal is luck and we throw it from one hand to another, no one can hold it, but everyone wants it. And those who don’t have it envy those who have it in their hands; and those who are greedy hold the coal so tightly that in the end it burns them. But as you can see, happiness is not a coal. Just stop playing this game, leave the circle of coal players and go to get your happiness in your heart.

Accept situation in your life as it is and decide modestly for happiness. And you who have a difficult life, I pray for you, that through the grace of unconditional love, you will be relieved and you may be accepted by yourself.

Hug another person and tell him, “Be happy too, but not because I’m hugging you, but because you want to!”

Don’t take yourself so seriously, be happy with yourself. If you want to know more, write to me. Of course, such a process can take longer. It also depends on our life experience and qualities and values and living conditions. But as I say, don’t take yourself so seriously. Because when you are taken seriously, pride and arrogance can come in that prevent us from progressing. It is important to feel free, then you are able accept. Remember that your true essence is love. And it is our nature to love, giving love and being love. Chant mantras to concentrate your mind. Take responsibility for yourself and be happy, I will try too 🙂

Sri Vitthala Giridhari Parabrahmane Namaha ❤️🍀🌞

With Love, Anuradha Dasi